SO TRUE! xx fitvillains: Same applies to weight loss and fitness. That amazing feeling of getting stronger often comes with a boost in confidence, but unless you’re doing some tightening and toning to your attitude, a fitter body won’t erase insecurities. But believing it will seems easier than having to do the hard work involved in self-reflection and changing our thinking. You see a lot of this attitude in thinspo motivation messages “It’ll be worth it when you can wear a bikini” or “You’ll be happy when you fit into skinny jeans”. Not so friends. That kind of pride comes from changing your attitude towards your body. You can hate it thin, but you’ll still hate it. Healthy is a place you get to with love. Same goes for happy. There are many women who work their asses off to get to a goal weight, and love themselves no better than when they started. But those who work equally hard on self-acceptance, positive thinking and insecurity coping love their bodies better no matter if they get to their goal weight or not. Happiness does not come with a size. It is not a goal weight. It is not a bikini. It’s hard work to love your body as is and to constantly remind yourself that our notions of beauty are skewed. But it’s what you have to do to get to a happier, more accepting place. And it’s worth the effort. So worth it! Engage in positive self talk. Create a positive, even cheesy environment to grow in. Focus on the love. Xo

SO TRUE! xx

fitvillains:

Same applies to weight loss and fitness.

That amazing feeling of getting stronger often comes with a boost in confidence, but unless you’re doing some tightening and toning to your attitude, a fitter body won’t erase insecurities. But believing it will seems easier than having to do the hard work involved in self-reflection and changing our thinking. You see a lot of this attitude in thinspo motivation messages “It’ll be worth it when you can wear a bikini” or “You’ll be happy when you fit into skinny jeans”.

Not so friends.

That kind of pride comes from changing your attitude towards your body. You can hate it thin, but you’ll still hate it. Healthy is a place you get to with love. Same goes for happy. There are many women who work their asses off to get to a goal weight, and love themselves no better than when they started. But those who work equally hard on self-acceptance, positive thinking and insecurity coping love their bodies better no matter if they get to their goal weight or not.

Happiness does not come with a size. It is not a goal weight. It is not a bikini.

It’s hard work to love your body as is and to constantly remind yourself that our notions of beauty are skewed. But it’s what you have to do to get to a happier, more accepting place. And it’s worth the effort. So worth it!

Engage in positive self talk. Create a positive, even cheesy environment to grow in. Focus on the love.

Xo

I am so glad that Sarah addressed this! It has happened to me too. I have a QuickieChick channel on YouTube where I post lots of quick workouts- including Quickie Workouts in Bed (they have sexy names, but they are seriously effective and great no-excuse workouts). Every once in a while I will get a comment like this:

“ur fat”

Short and stinging.

Just like Sarah, I’m a real chick. I have ups and downs, my body fluctuates, I love sweets and sometimes I eat too much of them. But that’s one of the reasons I choose to exercise daily- so I CAN eat those things and indulge once in a while. I’m not interested in being uber-skinny. I love food and I don’t feel it’s healthy to deprive myself just to be “skinny.” But sometimes words really do hurt.

QuickieChick on YouTube- http://youtu.be/WrtEfjwGgVU

thats-rad:

Why Am I Still Chunky?

Please click on this link. I think it is really important to support Sarah here.  I don’t religiously follow her blog like I do with others - but she makes a valid point and I hate when people hate on each other :(

x

Another reason why scales suck. I would so much rather depend on my Tester Jeans as a “scale” of measurement than a number. It makes people crazy! I know because the scale one made me crazy, insecure, and depressed. We are teaching our children the “F” word waaaaaay too young. That would be “Fat.” Stop using the word “diet” or “fat” around your kids and think- “Healthy.” Here’s more about my “Tester Jeans” concept- http://quickiechick.com/2011/05/tester-jeans/ healthy-fit-happy: This is the exact reason why I’m never having a scale in my house when I have children. They deserve to feel great about themselves and love them for who they are.  POWERFUL.

Another reason why scales suck. I would so much rather depend on my Tester Jeans as a “scale” of measurement than a number. It makes people crazy! I know because the scale one made me crazy, insecure, and depressed. We are teaching our children the “F” word waaaaaay too young. That would be “Fat.” Stop using the word “diet” or “fat” around your kids and think- “Healthy.” Here’s more about my “Tester Jeans” concept- http://quickiechick.com/2011/05/tester-jeans/

healthy-fit-happy:

This is the exact reason why I’m never having a scale in my house when I have children. They deserve to feel great about themselves and love them for who they are. 

POWERFUL.

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DailyQuickie: It’s Not What You Eat… But Why (why a food journal can help you figure it out and stop those emotional splurges) Where: my Office (at home) When: Wednesday, Nov 30th Why: I’m not hungry. But I want to Eat. What: I have a Food Journal. It’s hard to understand WHY you’re eating at the moment. Hindsight is 20/20. Why: It’s less about what you eat, and more about why you ate it. I keep a food journal and it isn’t just some lame way to record my daily intake, it’s also a place to track my feelings toward food: Did I eat that because I was upset that I saw my ex with his new girlfriend, so I ate an entire pizza. But after I ate that pizza I felt even worse about myself? Writing down my depression/anxiety/celebration/whatever- induced food foibles and feats forces me to fess up to myself, facing the facts of my food issues, and illuminating what drove me to inhale a dozen chocolate chip cookie last night, when the night before you felt fulfilled after just one. Food & Mood Journal Components: a. So… What happened?- (ran into my ex with his new fling at a bar) b. Your post-incident response- (balled my eyes out over a box of ready bake cookies- before even baking them!) c. Post-response response- (felt fat and out of control…balled my eyes out again)  d. Rewrite a better “b” for next “a”- (went for a run to make my butt look better than that chick’s) High-res

DailyQuickie: It’s Not What You Eat… But Why (why a food journal can help you figure it out and stop those emotional splurges)

Where: my Office (at home)

When: Wednesday, Nov 30th

Why: I’m not hungry. But I want to Eat.

What: I have a Food Journal. It’s hard to understand WHY you’re eating at the moment. Hindsight is 20/20.

Why: It’s less about what you eat, and more about why you ate it. I keep a food journal and it isn’t just some lame way to record my daily intake, it’s also a place to track my feelings toward food: Did I eat that because I was upset that I saw my ex with his new girlfriend, so I ate an entire pizza. But after I ate that pizza I felt even worse about myself? Writing down my depression/anxiety/celebration/whatever- induced food foibles and feats forces me to fess up to myself, facing the facts of my food issues, and illuminating what drove me to inhale a dozen chocolate chip cookie last night, when the night before you felt fulfilled after just one.

Food & Mood Journal Components:
a. So… What happened?- (ran into my ex with his new fling at a bar)
b. Your post-incident response- (balled my eyes out over a box of ready bake cookies- before even baking them!)
c. Post-response response- (felt fat and out of control…balled my eyes out again) 
d. Rewrite a better “b” for next “a”- (went for a run to make my butt look better than that chick’s)

DailyQuickie: I strip for myself every morning in front of the mirror Where: Bathroom Mirror When: Every morning… Why: Can’t Motivate to Workout? STRIP!If you’re having a hard time motivating, strip down to your skivvies and face yourself in the mirror. It’s not about looking for flaws, it’s about looking at where you stand right now and being honest about it. Yes, I could use a run right now. No, I really don’t want to paste that cookie to the side of my thighs… Beyond just motivation, it’s a great way to check in INSTEAD of using the DREADED SCALE (I don’t even own one). I check in with myself every morning. But more than a mode of measurement, I take that time to look at myself and tell myself one nice thing- sincerely. “I have a beautiful stomach.” “I love the shape of my breasts.” “I have a great bubble butt!”- I tell myself something nice and show appreciation for myself today. It’s a healthy way to start the day.

DailyQuickie: I strip for myself every morning in front of the mirror

Where: Bathroom Mirror

When: Every morning…

Why: Can’t Motivate to Workout? STRIP!
If you’re having a hard time motivating, strip down to your skivvies and face yourself in the mirror. It’s not about looking for flaws, it’s about looking at where you stand right now and being honest about it. Yes, I could use a run right now. No, I really don’t want to paste that cookie to the side of my thighs… Beyond just motivation, it’s a great way to check in INSTEAD of using the DREADED SCALE (I don’t even own one). I check in with myself every morning. But more than a mode of measurement, I take that time to look at myself and tell myself one nice thing- sincerely. “I have a beautiful stomach.” “I love the shape of my breasts.” “I have a great bubble butt!”- I tell myself something nice and show appreciation for myself today. It’s a healthy way to start the day.